Detachment - The Art Of letting Go
When I was in my 20's, the concept of change was something abstract in my mind and in a way it still is, because more often than not, it is something that does not always happen in one go. More commonly, it often occurs in stages and is intangible and you only feel that something is changing but the impact of the change can only be seen much later. There are many people, things, standards or even concepts of the world, that are important to us and some of these, we feel like we cannot live without. When something happens and we are forced to let go of what is important to us, we all go into crisis mode. I have yet to meet someone who doesn't do that. So how do we avoid all the stress of life changing experiences? I realized that the easiest way to let go of things is detachment...but that is only as far as "things or objects" are concerned, because when talking about detachment, I do not want to put people in the same category as things. My view of detachment is somewhat different for people, and for inanimate objects. Okay, having said that, how then do we develop detachment from what is or was, what isn't or wasn't and what should be?
First, try to be as objective as possible (ex. what is the cause of your attachment to an object?)
Second, let go of your fears (fear of loss)
Third, always do your best but lower your expectations
Fourth, be open and flexible, think about change in a positive way
and the most the important one of all...pray and put your hope and trust in God. This last one works without fail every time.
And finally, let me share a recommendation given by the Japanese clutter guru, Marie Kondo. She says that we should ask ourselves if the things we can't seem to throw away give us "joy", and if the answer is negative, then we should let it go. I believe that this is very good advice not only of the physical clutter in our lives but also applies to the intangibles.